Thrusting Against Negative Forces is a well-written journal that encourages everyone that we all can live peacefully and wrapped in love if we build our spiritual character. To take a step back and evaluate your thoughts and write them down, demonstrates a level of accountability and grants the ability to correct your inner flaws. I feel inspired to live a better life than the one I’m currently living simply because I know I am deserving of the great life God has planned for me. I highly recommend this to anyone, as you’ll gain a new perspective to your surroundings and then begin to work on your spiritual fitness. Reading through each page has been like a discovery because I was able to be more aware of certain situations which were mentioned that exist in my own life. This book is extremely relatable and will immediately capture you from the first couple of pages. Even though this has been formatted as a daily spiritual journal, I learned that each day, whether when you first wake up or before going to sleep to give God what troubles us. By doing this exercise, we clear our hearts, soul, and mind from all negative forces and carry on in our lives feeling lightweight. It allows you to acknowledge your thoughts and feelings, giving them a level of validation - and that it is important will bring you closer to God. There’s so much that I have taken away from this book and will begin applying this into my life. —Rae C. Bernard, Pacific Book Review For more information or to order this book please click here.

T.E.A.C.H. Academy of Lago Vista, TX has been a CAI since April, 2018. Dr. Keiah P. Ellis is a Licensed Pastoral Counselor. Balance. We all need it. Desperately It’s what keeps our relationships healthy. It’s what keeps our work and family lives seamless. It’s how we get our needs met while also meeting the needs of others. It’s the key ingredient in the recipe of a good life. Jesus taught us about life balance. He spent much quality time with his disciples, but he also stole away for alone, quiet time when His heart needed it. He enjoyed fellowship and camaraderie with the people who needed Him most, but never at the expense of time spent in the presence of His Father. He didn’t tip one way or the other, going from extreme to extreme, moved about by every wind of life's circumstances. He remained in control of His mind and His emotions, and He was firmly anchored in the hands of the Lord and His ability to keep Him. He understood God’s true rest as a mind, body, and spirit experience. He remained balanced in every area of life and godliness. As temperament counselors, we have the unique opportunity to dig down beyond the surface behaviors of our counselees, and to see their needs. We have a direct visual into the places where their lives are not in balance. And with the help of the Holy Spirit, we are able to help them make changes and decisions that will get their needs met in healthy, God-honoring ways and stop self-destructive patterns that keep them off-kilter. What a privilege. At T.E.A.C.H. Academy, I train my students to think this way. Our main goal is to use the tool of the A.P.S. to show our counselees who they are on a core, needs-based level. Understanding the needs that they have creates the scale on which we set their presenting issues. From there, it is easy to see what actions, behaviors, and poor thinking habits are tipping the scales too far one way or the other, and we can specifically address those things. It’s not a shot in the dark. It’s a specific course of action that effectively brings about positive changes in the lives of our counselees, and ultimately, brings them closer to our Lord Jesus. I count it such an honor to have access to the A.P.S. I feel as though I’ve been endowed with a superpower -- x-ray vision. I can clearly look past the behaviors of a person and see what needs they are desperately trying to meet. After all, that is what all behavior is. Everything we do is an attempt, consciously, or, as is often the case with our counselees, unconsciously, to meet some need. Dissecting the results of the A.P.S. with our counselees makes the process of identifying these connections of needs to behaviors so much easier. And we are then able to spend our time in sessions finding ways to honor God in meeting our needs, without having to guess. It simplifies the therapeutic process, and I love simple. In addition to teaching Creation Therapy to future counselors, my C.A.I. also teaches Created in God’s Image classes to introduce laypeople to temperament theory. We host “Temperament Talks” where we talk about all things temperament. This is a great opportunity for students and new counselors to hone their skills in a low-stress environment. I find that the more we talk about temperament, the more we understand, and the more we are able to apply to our own lives and in our counseling sessions. I recently created a program for my students called Back to Basics, and its entire purpose is to help them to grow in confidence in their abilities to use the A.P.S. effectively in their ministries and in their time with their counselees. I came from a corporate educational background, so I also use the A.P.S. to consult with business owners and managers to ensure that they are using their human resources in the best ways possible. We help to make sure that their employees are positioned to work in a healthy balance of enjoyment and responsibility. This year, I hope to expand into the public and private school system to use the A.P.S. to help teachers be more effective in their classroom management, by showing them how to balance meeting the needs of their students without forfeiting meeting their own needs. It has been such a joy, and I look forward to whatever other opportunities the Lord presents to me for using the A.P.S. for His Kingdom and His glory. Life is a delicate balancing act. What an honor to be called of the Lord to help people along the way.

1. He that dwelleth in the secret place of the most High shall abide under the shadow of the Almighty. 2. I will say of the Lord, He is my refuge and my fortress: my God; in him will I trust. 3. Surely he shall deliver thee from the snare of the fowler, and from the noisome pestilence. 4. He shall cover thee with his feathers, and under his wings shalt thou trust: his truth shall be thy shield and buckler. 5. Thou shalt not be afraid for the terror by night; nor for the arrow that flieth by day; 6. Nor for the pestilence that walketh in darkness; nor for the destruction that wasteth at noonday. 7. A thousand shall fall at thy side, and ten thousand at thy right hand; but it shall not come nigh thee. 8. Only with thine eyes shalt thou behold and see the reward of the wicked. 9. Because thou has made the Lord, which is my refuge, even the most High, thy habitation; 10. There shall no evil befall thee, neither shall any plague come nigh thy dwelling. 11. For he shall give his angels charge over thee, to keep thee in all thy ways. 12. They shall bear thee up in their hands, lest thou dash thy foot against a stone. 13. Thou shalt tred upon the lion and adder: the young lion and the dragon shalt thou trample under feet. 14. Because he hath set his love upon me, therefore will I deliver him: I will set him on high, because he hath known my name. 15. He shall call upon me, and I will answer him: I will be with him in trouble; I will deliver him, and honour him. 16. With long life will I satisfy him, and shew him my salvation. FEAR FEAR IS A BIG BULLY AND PREYS ON ALL OF THE TEMPERAMENTS! Fear can keep us locked up in a prison of darkness. But YOU have the key to get out of this prison of darkness. The key is Jesus! We need to trust that Jesus will get rid of the bully. How? Jesus is the Light of the World, and the darkness has to run from Him. And Jesus always keeps His Word. For example, take a flashlight and shine the light in a dark place and see what happens—the darkness disappears! The same thing will happen with our fears because Jesus is our Light—our fears will disappear! The Holy Scriptures tell us: “Fear not.” It is in our Bible over 70 times and tells us that God is always here for us; however, sometimes, when we are going through the valleys, we tend to let fear creep in and take over. Encouraging Scriptures regarding fear: Isaiah 41:10: “Fear thou not; for I am with thee: be not dismayed; for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness.” Joshua 1:5: “I will be with thee: I will not fail thee, nor forsake thee.” Psalm 23:4, 5: “Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me.” Psalm 27:1: “The Lord is my light and my salvation; whom shall I fear?” Psalm 56:11: “In God have I put my trust: I will not be afraid what man can do unto me.” Hebrews 13:6: “So that we may boldly say, The Lord is my helper, and I will not fear what man shall do unto me.” John 14:27: “Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.” II Timothy 1:7: “For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.” I John 4:18: “There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love.” LET’S TAKE A LOOK AT SOME OF THE FEARS IN THE INCLUSION AREA OF THE PHLEGMATIC AND SHINE THE LIGHT OF JESUS ON THEM. In review, Inclusion is the need to establish and maintain satisfactory relationships with people in the area of surface relationships. (This includes association and socialization.) It also encompasses a person’s intellectual energies. 1. FEAR OF BEING PRESSURED INTO BECOMING TOO INVOLVED Phlegmatics in Inclusion tend to not want to become too involved. At work, they tend to try to keep to themselves so that others will not make demands on them. They will respond when spoken to, but will usually not go and initiate a “conversation at the water cooler.” They may even bring their own water bottle so that they do not have to walk to the water cooler for two reasons: First, they do not want to expend the energy; and second, they do not wish to be drawn into office politics. They would prefer to become “invisible.” Phlegmatics in Inclusion may tend to want to stay home rather than attend church for two reasons: First, they do not want to expend the energy; and second, they do not wish to be drawn into church politics or projects. Phlegmatics in Inclusion must learn to maintain balance in their life daily. Otherwise, they may tend to work only at preserving their energy and may lose touch with life itself, including family and friends. It is important for them to know that they are capable of inspiring others, but, in order to inspire them, they need to be in contact with them. They need to learn to shine the light of Jesus on their fears of becoming too involved and learn that He loves them and wants them to not become weary in well-doing. I Peter 4:10 tells us: “As every man hath received the gift, even so minister the same one to another, as good stewards of the manifold grace of God.” 2. FEAR OF SOCIALIZING Phlegmatics in Inclusion tend to have the fear of socializing because they are physically drained after a day at work and they do not want to spend their evening interacting with people. Spending time with people in the evening may drain them even more. Phlegmatics in Inclusion usually tend to prefer to go straight home and settle down in their easy chair or take a nap before dinner. Then, after dinner, they may tend to prefer to sit at the computer or watch TV rather than go out for the evening. In other words, they are “peopled-out” and their energy is depleted. Sometimes, if they have guests in their home, they may “slip out” or “disappear” and go to bed. Phlegmatics in Inclusion need to learn to maintain balance in this area, not only for themselves, but for their friends and family. If they do not learn to maintain balance, they may find themselves reserving their energy to the point that they have withdrawn from the world itself. They need to learn to shine the light of Jesus on their fears of socializing. They can learn to do this by maintaining a close relationship with the Lord, so they will have the desire to share God’s love with others. Psalm 34:4 tells us: “I sought the Lord, and He heard me, and delivered me from all my fears.” 3. FEAR OF MAKING CHANGES Phlegmatics in Inclusion tend to have the fear of making changes. They do not like to change jobs, change homes, change cars, change churches, etc. For the Phlegmatic in Inclusion it takes too much energy to change jobs, pack and move, purchase a new car, etc. For this reason they may tend to drive their cars until they “fall apart and quit running.” Because they tend to be perfectionist and detail-oriented, Phlegmatics in Inclusion would have a difficult time trying to find the perfect job, the perfect home or the perfect car, so they tend to do nothing at all. Phlegmatics in Inclusion need to learn to maintain balance in this area, not only for themselves, but for their friends and family. They need to learn to shine the light of Jesus on their fear of making changes so that their life can become less fearful and more peaceful. Isaiah 41:10 tells us: “Fear thou not; for I am with thee: be not dismayed; for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness.” 4. FEAR OF PHYSICAL TAXATION Phlegmatics in Inclusion tend to have the fear of physical taxation. They prefer not to be around Sanguines and Cholerics too much because they tend to try to control and make demands on them; therefore, the Phlegmatic in Inclusion will usually try to avoid the Sanguines and Cholerics. When they cannot avoid them, they will tend to keep them “at bay” by using their humor. Sometimes this humor is dry, sometimes it is witty and charming, and sometimes it can be cutting, hurtful and harsh. Phlegmatics in Inclusion, because of their low energy level, tend to eat too much and not exercise enough. Therefore, they may tend to have weight problems, which can lead to other physical problems, such as high blood pressure, etc. Phlegmatics in Inclusion need to learn to maintain balance with work, relaxation, exercise and rest. They need to learn to shine the light of Jesus on their fear of physical taxation so that their life can become less fearful and more peaceful. Isaiah 40:29 tells us: “He giveth power to the faint; and to them that have no might He increaseth strength.” 5. FEAR OF OTHERS DYING AND LEAVING THEM WITH THE LOAD (RESPONSIBILITIES) Phlegmatics in Inclusion tend to fear being left with the “load” (responsibilities) if their spouse dies. It is hard for them to work all day and then come home and have to carry the load of taking care of the home and children. This is because it takes too much energy, plus time and “know-how.” Phlegmatics in Inclusion tend to fear that if a co–worker dies, they must assume more of the workload and/or have to take on the responsibility of training a new person. In either event, they fear it will take too much energy and cause them to be stressed. Phlegmatics in Inclusion need to learn that God will be with them, no matter what responsibilities they must take on. They need to learn to shine the light of Jesus on their fear of others dying and leaving them with the load (responsibilities) so that their life can become less fearful and more peaceful. Philippians 4:13 tells us: “I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.” CONCLUSION Phlegmatics in Inclusion need to shine the light of Jesus on their fears and learn that: 1. God wants them to maintain balance in this area and to know that He loves them. He does not want them to fear and become weary in well-doing, as they can be such an inspiration to others. 2. God wants them to maintain a close relationship with Him so that they can learn to balance out preserving their energy and socializing in order to fulfill the call God has on their life. 3. God wants them to maintain a close relationship with Him and learn to seek Him when they need to make changes. He will direct their steps to making changes. 4. God wants them to learn to maintain a close relationship with Him so that He can help them to bring balance into their life regarding work, relaxation, exercise and rest. 5. God wants them to learn to maintain a close relationship with Him and know that He will be with them if they lose a loved one, so they do not need to fear death and dying—He is with them always and is there to support and guide them. PLEASE NOTE: These are temperament tendencies, and, as always, while you are counseling the Phlegmatics in Inclusion you must take into consideration their walk with the Lord, learned behavior, personality and birth order. In the next issue we will look at FEARS in the Inclusion area of the Sanguine.

The Star of Bethlehem shone brightly and lit up the way to guide the wise men to find our Savior, Jesus—the Light of the World. See Matthew 2:1-2: “Now when Jesus was born in Bethlehem of Judaea in the days of Herod the king, behold, there came wise men from the east to Jerusalem, Saying, Where is he that is born King of the Jews? for we have seen his star in the east, and are come to worship him.” John the Baptist was like the Star of Bethlehem shining bright and lighting the way to guide people to Jesus. The Apostle John wrote the following verses describing John the Baptist: We, too, like the Star of Bethlehem, can shine bright and light up the way to guide the lost souls of this world toward Jesus—the Light of the World. Isaiah 60:1: “Arise, shine; for thy light is come, and the glory of the Lord is risen upon thee.” As we are told in the Holy Scriptures, in Bethlehem there was no room in the inn. Luke 2:7: “And she brought forth her firstborn son, and wrapped him in swaddling clothes, and laid him in a manger; because there was no room for them in the inn.” We need to ask ourselves: “Do I have room for Jesus this Christmas, or do I allow Him to get lost in the hustle and bustle of the preparations?” “Will I put Him first and let His light shine through me this Christmas to show the world that Jesus lives in me?” Let’s look at how the different temperaments can “shine” the Light of Jesus this Christmas. The Choleric Since God created them to be leaders, they can let their “light” shine by using their abilities to organize Christmas programs, dinners, cantatas, pageants, etc. They need to learn that in order for their “light” to shine they need to work with people rather than trying to just control them. They tend to want things done their way and tend to not want to listen to the input or suggestions of others; therefore, they need to learn to be willing to allow others to offer their input and suggestions and work as a team. They tend to take on too many responsibilities and can become stressed and overwhelmed, and their “light” can become dim and of no effect; therefore, they need to learn to maintain balance during this season by not taking on too many leadership responsibilities in order to keep their “light” shining. The Melancholy Since God created them to be loners and task-oriented, they can let their “light” shine by using their abilities to work behind the scenes setting up sound equipment, building props, painting, baking pies, cookies and cakes for the luncheons, dinners and church bazaars. They also need to learn that in order for their “light” to shine they need to be willing to allow others to work with them on Christmas projects. They tend to take on a project and can become so driven to complete it perfectly that they can become stressed and overwhelmed, and their “light” can become dim and of no effect; therefore, they need to learn to maintain balance during this season so that they do not become stressed by being too perfectionistic and too overwhelmed by their interactions with people. The Phlegmatic Since God created them to be peacemakers and negotiators, they can let their “light” shine by using their abilities to keep the peace and help resolve problems that can arise with those involved in the Christmas events. They tend to be stubborn and dislike being pushed when working on a Christmas project since they are perfectionists and want everything done perfectly! They tend to tire easily and will withdraw when they are pushed because they have low energy, and when this happens, their “light” can become dim and of little effect; therefore, they need to learn to maintain balance between work and rest during this season in order to keep their “light” shining. The Sanguine Since God created them to be relationship-oriented, they can let their “light” shine by using their abilities to bring happiness and excitement to everyone with whom they come in contact. They are like sunshine on a rainy day. They will tend to make everyone feel welcome because they tend to be able to interact with almost everyone. They will tend to want to participate in all of the Christmas festivities and be the center of attention; however, they will tend to wear themselves out running from one event to another. When that happens, their “light” can become very dim and of little effect; therefore, they need to learn to maintain balance by being more selective about the events they choose to attend. The Supine Since God created them with a gentle spirit and a servant’s heart, they can let their “light” shine by using their abilities to serve others. They tend to find it difficult to turn down any invitation to participate in the Christmas festivities. They tend to be willing to prepare food for Christmas luncheons and dinners, set up the tables, decorate them, serve the food, and even clean up afterwards. They will tend to want to participate in every event possible; however, they may deplete their energy and wear themselves out serving and caring for others. When that happens, their “light” can become very dim and of little effect; therefore, they need to learn to maintain balance by learning to decline invitations in order to keep from becoming overwhelmed. As you can see, all the temperaments can “shine” the Light of Jesus this Christmas. Galatians 5:22-23 tells us: “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.” As we are filled with the Fruit of the Spirit, His light will shine through us. Ephesians 4:32 tells us: “And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.” Please know that God wants us to be like the Star of Bethlehem and “shine” brightly in this dark world to guide people to Jesus!

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The 2019 NCCA Conference was held at the Embassy Suites by Hilton, Cary, NC on October 18-19, 2019. Registration and Meet & Greet were on Thursday evening, October 17th, from 7-9 pm. On Friday, October 18th, we had a full day of sessions consisting of: SESSION 1: “ADDRESSING THE COUNSELING NEEDS OF MILITARY MEN AND WOMEN, THOSE IN POLICE SERVICE, VETERANS AND OTHERS WITH VESTED AUTHORITY” was presented by Rev. Jerry Richards. He shared it was his immense privilege to stand amongst experts at this year’s NCCA conference as we came together in order to serve our Living God and His world. The opportunity to share some of the things I have learned in treating Armed Servicemen and women, Police Members, EMS Members and Veterans of all stripes was humbling. The issue of men and women serving, regardless of their APS type has led to a deluge of people struggling to identify with their service requirements and experiences. Coming to terms with these challenges is essential for the Christian Counselor. My introduction to these issues was well received, and the remarks and comments from my fellow professionals both at the conference and since has added to the experience for me. SESSIONS 2 & 3: “BACK TO BASICS” were presented by Pastor Joe and Dr. Merrie Kaye. The first session included topics such as: I. What needs to be our ministry basic and why? A. Why do we need to focus on the Bible as our basic? B. How might we veer off this basic? C. How might we stay accountable to keeping the Bible as our basic? II. What is a ministry ‘lane’ and what is the basic NCCA ministry game-lane or ‘lane’? A. How can we define our ministry ‘lane’ using the APS as our fundamental? B. How can we build solid guard-rails to keep our ministry from veering off its defined lane? C. What are the benefits from having strong ministry guard-rails? II. Final thoughts: The second session included topics such as: I. Basic #1 – The Bible: Role Playing – The Gospel Message. II. Basic #2 – The APS: Role Playing—Introduction to the APS. SESSION 4 & 5: “MAXIMUM COUNSELING MINISTRY WITH MINIMAL LIABILITY” were presented by Attorney David Gibbs III. He gave us a Legal Update for 2019. Both sessions were enlightening and helpful for our counselors. SESSION 6: “GROW YOUR MINISTRY WITH SEMINARS AND SUPPORT GROUPS was presented by Dr. Robert J. Duncan, Jr. He covered such topics as: What are the #1 questions about ministry--Marketing? How can I grow my ministry--Organization? How can I grow my ministry--Sustainability? 90 days to a new ministry level. Seminar Outline. Revenue Impact from Seminars. Support Groups, Revenue Impact from Support Groups, Support Group Outline. This session also included two case studies. SESSION 7: “CRITICAL REVIEW OF YOUR INTAKE PROCESS” was presented by Rev. Steven M. Baran. His session included: Who are you? Informed Consent Disclosure MUST HAVES. Important to share the process/expectations. Authority to Counsel. Mandatory Reporting, Confidentiality- Minors Under age 18. Confidentiality-Adults. Discontinuation of Services by the Client. Discontinuation of Service by Counselor. List is not Exhaustive rather just a start. Payment. COMEDY EVENT WITH ANDREW STANLEY! From 7:00-9:00. Andrew is an Atlanta-based stand-up comedian with a dry sense of humor. We enjoyed his comedy act. It was a nice way to relax after a full day of learning. He was recently named the grand prize winner of the 2017 Search for the South’s Funniest Accountant. On Saturday, October 19th, we had a full day of sessions consisting of: SESSION 8: “COUNSELING THE PHLEGMATIC CHOLERIC IN INCLUSION, CONTROL, AND AFFECTION.” I presented this session. I explained that when you combine the Phlegmatic with any of the other four temperaments, you have a “blended temperament.” In other words, when you have a Phlegmatic blend, you have a totally separate temperament and you must counsel them as a separate temperament—not just as a Phlegmatic, Choleric, Melancholy, Sanguine or Supine. I also reviewed the Expressive and Responsive (wanted) area of the blend temperaments. SESSION 9: “A JOINT SESSION WITH THE FOUNDERS.” Dr. Arno and I presented this session. We shared some “gold nuggets” regarding counseling such as scheduling breaks in between your counseling sessions so that you have time to review the incoming counselee’s information, and so that you can seek the Lord in prayer for guidance as you counsel each person. I found two prayer suggestions in my devotional that are really great. They are “Jesus, keep me aware of your Presence,” and “Thank you, Jesus, for your Presence.” PLEASE REMEMBER, BE A “SAFE PLACE” FOR YOUR COUNSELEES TO COME TO SHARE THEIR BURDENS. Also, Dr. Arno shared a story from his new book “God Sent an Angel.” SESSION 10: “If I Had a Hammer" was presented by Dr. Tim and Sheryl Brewer. They stated that many marital issues that we are dealing with in our practice actually come from men and women not living and serving in their God-ordained roles.  One of the most important facets to bringing marriages into alignment in addition to temperament is mentoring men to be the leader that God intends for them to be in the home.  This process of leadership embraces the idea of valuing each spouse without the dynamic of any partner losing their individual identities. We have developed an ongoing and evolving process to help men and women to realize their roles and have clarity in the potential of them walking successfully in what they are called by God to do. SESSION 11: “The Father Ladder: Lies vs Truth" was presented by Dr. Al Jones. He stated that there is a need to clarify the connections between the lies that have been learned from childhood and the relationships we have formed with each member of the Godhead. He explained about the human family: When family members fail to fulfill their roles, the resulting pain and confusions can easily transfer to our understanding of God the Father, Jesus and the Holy Spirit. SESSION 12: “Shame: Identity Thief" was presented by Dr. Al Jones. He stated that there are two types of shame: True shame or healthy guilt and false or toxic shame. He shared with us that shame is a master emotion; what shame leads to; Shame Shifts Blame; Emotional indicators of Shame; the Bondage of Shame, Development of Toxic Shame, Generational Shame, Shame Brings Addition; Characteristics of Shame, The Answer to Shame, Maintaining Shame, How do we Begin to Change?; Identifying the Lies I have believed; Wrong Views of God. SESSION 13: “Considerations for the Temperament Counselor” was presented by Dr. Jeanne Kuckelman. She cited: “God I invite your searching gaze into my heart. Examine me through and through; find out everything that may be hidden within me. Put me to the test and sift through all my anxious cares.” She also gave us foundational principles: 1. Know; 2. Understand; and 3. Learn. SESSION 14: “Practical Application of Key Concepts” was presented by Dr. Jeanne Kuckelman. She discussed DISINTEGRATED – the process of losing cohesion or strength, and INTEGRATION – a process that combines or brings together two or more entities in order to gain strength and effectiveness. A BIG THANKS GOES TO…. Rev. Baran, N.C.C.A. President, for his leadership abilities in lining up the conference location and all the behind the scene efforts that it takes to make a conference a success. Rev. Baran was also the Master of Ceremonies, and was available to give guidance to our members on a one-on-one basis. Jason Ferrill for all his work in helping to prepare for the conference, and working with the hotel staff during the conference. Michael Andrews for his tech support as well as assisting the NCCA conference attendees during the conference. Mark Winchell for his member care support in assisting the NCCA conference attendees during the conference. Tina Adams for helping with the registrations and assisting at the NCCA table. Mara Baran for doing a fantastic job laying out the conference notebook, assisting at the NCCA table and manning the Photo Booth. Michael Dan, Linda Walker and Brian Colvin for keeping the main headquarters open to service our members who were unable to attend the conference. Dr. Richard Arno for his smiling face and cheerful presence during the conference. And a very big THANK YOU to all of you who attended the conference! It was such a JOY to be with you! Most of all, we would like to thank the Lord for anointing the conference as we were all truly BLESSED. MERRY CHRISTMAS AND MAY YOU HAVE A BLESSED, JOYFUL HAPPY NEW YEAR! If you were unable to join us in Raleigh you can purchase digital audio downloads of the full set or individual sessions by clicking here - https://ncca-org.myshopify.com/products/4291243212933 We look forward to seeing you all in Dallas, TX on October 30-31 for the 2020 NCCA Conference.

He that dwelleth in the secret place of the most High shall abide under the shadow of the Almighty. I will say of the Lord, He is my refuge and my fortress: my God; in him will I trust. Surely he shall deliver thee from the snare of the fowler, and from the noisome pestilence. He shall cover thee with his feathers, and under his wings shalt thou trust: his truth shall be thy shield and buckler. Thou shalt not be afraid for the terror by night; nor for the arrow that flieth by day; Nor for the pestilence that walketh in darkness; nor for the destruction that wasteth at noonday. A thousand shall fall at thy side, and ten thousand at thy right hand; but it shall not come nigh thee. Only with thine eyes shalt thou behold and see the reward of the wicked. Because thou has made the Lord, which is my refuge, even the most High, thy habitation; There shall no evil befall thee, neither shall any plague come nigh thy dwelling. For he shall give his angels charge over thee, to keep thee in all thy ways. They shall bear thee up in their hands, lest thou dash thy foot against a stone. Thou shalt tred upon the lion and adder: the young lion and the dragon shalt thou trample under feet. Thou shalt tred upon the lion and adder: the young lion and the dragon shalt thou trample under feet. He shall call upon me, and I will answer him: I will be with him in trouble; I will deliver him, and honour him. With long life will I satisfy him, and shew him my salvation. FEAR FEAR IS A BIG BULLY AND PREYS ON ALL OF THE TEMPERAMENTS! Fear can keep us locked up in a prison of darkness. But YOU have the key to get out of this prison of darkness. The key is Jesus! We need to trust that Jesus will get rid of the bully. How? Jesus is the Light of the World, and the darkness has to run from Him. And Jesus always keeps His Word. For example, take a flashlight and shine the light in a dark place and see what happens—the darkness disappears! The same thing will happen with our fears because Jesus is our Light—our fears will disappear! The Holy Scriptures tell us: “Fear not.” It is in our Bible over 70 times and tells us that God is always here for us; however, sometimes, when we are going through the valleys, we tend to let fear creep in and take over. Encouraging Scriptures regarding fear: Isaiah 41:10: “Fear thou not; for I am with thee: be not dismayed; for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness.” Joshua 1:5: “I will be with thee: I will not fail thee, nor forsake thee.” Psalm 23:4, 5: “Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me.” Psalm 27:1: “The Lord is my light and my salvation; whom shall I fear?” Psalm 56:11: “In God have I put my trust: I will not be afraid what man can do unto me.” Hebrews 13:6: “So that we may boldly say, The Lord is my helper, and I will not fear what man shall do unto me.” John 14:27: “Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.” II Timothy 1:7: “For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.” I John 4:18: “There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love.” LET’S TAKE A LOOK AT SOME OF THE FEARS IN THE INCLUSION AREA OF THE MELANCHOLY AND SHINE THE LIGHT OF JESUS ON THEM. In review, Inclusion is the need to establish and maintain satisfactory relationships with people in the area of surface relationships. (This includes association and socialization.) It also encompasses a person’s intellectual energies. 1. FEAR OF REJECTION Melancholies in Inclusion tend to fear rejection from people and will tend to reject them first. This is because they do not relate well to people and do not understand them. Since they tend to think a great deal, this fear of rejection may only be perceived. They need to learn to yield their thoughts to Jesus. They must remember: They are the guardians of their mind and, as guardians, they need to continually submit their fears of rejection to Jesus. If they do this, Jesus will alleviate their fears. Therefore, they need to learn to shine the light of Jesus on their fears of rejection and learn that He loves them. One of the old hymns tells us: “More secure is no one ever than the loved one of the Savior.” When you feel secure in God’s love, you will not tend to fear rejection from people. Hebrews 13:5b, 6 tells us: “…I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee. So that we may boldly say, The Lord is my helper, and I will not fear what man shall do unto me.” 2. FEAR OF SOCIALIZING Melancholies in Inclusion tend to have the fear of socializing because they do not relate well to people; they relate better to doing tasks. They tend to fear that people will make demands on them to interact—demands that will make them feel uncomfortable. If Melancholies in Inclusion are required to attend social functions, they would probably feel more comfortable working in the background doing tasks such as setting up sound equipment, building scenery, painting, cooking, etc. When they have a task to perform, they can avoid being drawn into interacting with people; however, if someone draws them into a conversation, they will do the listening and may even talk about their work or the weather. They usually do not like to be questioned regarding their personal life as they prefer not to share their personal thoughts and feelings. They need to learn to shine the light of Jesus on their fears of socializing so that they can comfortably interact and fellowship with God’s people. I John 1:7 tells us: “But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship one with another, and the blood of Jesus Christ his Son cleanseth us from all sin.” 3. FEAR OF IMPERFECTION OF SELF AND OTHERS Melancholies in Inclusion tend to fear that they do not measure up to their own ideals of perfection; therefore, no one else could ever see them as perfect either. In their own eyes they are never perfect enough. Since they cannot see perfection within themselves, they will then tend to look at others thinking that they are perfect; however, Melancholies in Inclusion soon find out that others also have imperfections. They may even begin to think to themselves: “Nobody is perfect and nobody can be perfect.” Therefore, to compensate for their own feelings of imperfection or inadequacy they may become highly critical of others. Melancholies in Inclusion need to know that only Jesus is totally perfect and that they need to give themselves and others the freedom to be imperfect. They need to learn to shine the light of Jesus on their fears of imperfection. They need to remember that Jesus is Perfection, and that as they yield their strengths and weaknesses to Him, He will do the perfecting in them as well as in others. Then, Melancholies in Inclusion will truly be able to accept themselves and others as God created them to be and will know that we are all works in progress. II Samuel 22:33 tells us: “God is my strength and power: and he maketh my way perfect.” Psalm 138:8 tells us: “The Lord will perfect that which concerneth me: thy mercy, O Lord, endureth forever: forsake not the works of thine own hands." 4. FEAR OF DEATH AND DYING Melancholies in Inclusion tend to fear death and dying. They tend to have many questions such as: “Will I linger in pain and die a slow death?” “Will I be able to take care of myself?” “Who will take care of me if I can’t take care of myself?” “Will I have to leave my home and go to a health care center?” The reason they have all of these questions in their mind is that they usually do not want to leave their home or even want to live with one of their children, and they do not want to live in a nursing home. This is because their home is their “castle,” their “safe haven” away from the rest of the world, and also, they do not want to have strangers take care of them. They will not usually talk to people about this because they do not want them to know of their fears; but they will tend to think about all of this constantly. If they continually dwell on thoughts of death, and dying they may even think about committing suicide to escape these thoughts and to escape the inevitable—leaving their home. They need to learn to shine the light of Jesus on their fears of death and dying. They need to learn that He is their true “safe haven” and they can always “run to Him.” Psalm 23:4 tells us: “Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me.” Isaiah 41:10 tells us: “Fear thou not; for I am with thee: be not dismayed; for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness.” 5. FEAR OF FINANCIAL INSECURITY Melancholies in Inclusion tend to be concerned about their finances. Some tend to need to pay cash for everything; some tend to need to have a certain amount of money in their pocket; some tend to need to buy land as an investment; some will tend to clip coupons; and some will tend to only buy items that are on sale. If they have investments, they will tend to watch the stock market reports daily. If the market goes down, they tend to become fearful and become insecure. Melancholies in Inclusion may tend to feel insecure with their job. They may think: “What will I do if I lose my job?” “How will I support myself and my family?” Dwelling on financial insecurities may even cause them to entertain suicidal thoughts to escape the pressure. They need to learn to shine the light of Jesus on their fears of financial insecurity because God said that He will supply all their needs. Philippians 4:19 tells us: “But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus.” Matthew 6:30 tells us: “Wherefore, if God so clothe the grass of the field, which today is, and tomorrow is cast into the oven, shall he not much more clothe you….?” CONCLUSION Melancholies in Inclusion need to shine the light of Jesus on their fears and learn that: God will never leave them or forsake them, and they do not have to fear rejection from people. God wants them to fellowship with other believers and be at peace with their neighbors and co-workers. God wants them to know that He will do the perfecting of others as well as of themselves. God wants them to trust in Him, and not to fear death and dying as He is with them always. God wants them to trust in Him, and He will supply their needs. PLEASE NOTE: These are temperament tendencies, and, as always, while you are counseling the Melancholy in Inclusion you must take into consideration their walk with the Lord, learned behavior, personality and birth order. In the next issue, we will look at FEARS in the Inclusion area of the Phlegmatic.

Dr. Al Jones formed Head to Heart Restoration Ministry in 2006. In 2008 Head to Heart expanded to include being a Certified Academic Institution of the NCCA. The mission of Head to Heart Restoration Ministry is to bring emotional and spiritual wholeness to wounded and broken people through the power of Jesus Christ. Currently, there are five counselors ministering out of two offices in the Central Texas area. One of Head to Heart Restoration Ministry’s commitments is to raise up counselors to serve the community in and outside of the central Texas area. All of the Head to Heart counselors were students of Dr. Jones. The CAI program within Head to Heart utilizes the NCCA courses and the APS as the foundation for training students. In addition to the NCCA courses, Dr. Jones teaches interested students prayer ministry and inner healing techniques to help counselees receive deeper healing for damaged emotions, liberty from the past, and freedom from bondages. He hopes to one day develop an inner/emotional healing training manual for counselors and ministers. A new area of training is dealing with Negative Expectations. Negative Expectations are an unbiblical belief system that we have against ourselves, others, authorities, institutions, or God. They can come from things we, or others, speak over us. Some examples of Negative Expectations are: “I don’t deserve God’s blessings.” “I’ll probably fail.” “My children will rebel.” “People will never accept me.” Positive Expectations activate the Law of Faith. In Matthew 9: 27-31 Jesus healed two blind men. After he touched their eyes he said, “According to your faith let it be done to you” and their sight was restored. Their faith, a Positive Expectation, led to their healing. NEGATIVE EXPECTATIONS ACTIVATE FOUR LAWS Negative Expectations activate the Law of Faith in Reverse. The person who continually speaks over themselves, “I’ll probably fail” most likely will. They are activating their negative faith. Our negative talk and expectations often prove themselves to be accurate. We must guard what we speak over ourselves and others. Negative Expectations activate the Law of Judgment. Matthew 7:1 tells us, “Do not judge, or you too will be judged.” In any area where we judge ourselves or others, our lives will not go well. Judging ourselves or others puts us in a place of elevating ourselves to the position of God. We are making judgements, negative expectations, over our lives and the lives of others. Negative Expectations Activate the Law of Sowing and Reaping. The law of sowing and reaping tells us we will reap a harvest based on what we have sown. Galatians 6:7 states, “Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows.” When a farmer plants corn, the harvest yields corn. If we sow negative expectations, we will reap the results of those expectations. Negative Expectations Activate the Law of Multiplication. Hosea 8:7 tells us, “They sow the wind and reap the whirlwind.” When the farmer plants a bushel of seed, he reaps a much larger harvest than what he plants. As a young Christian I was told, “You can’t sow seed and expect or pray for crop failure.” Negative expectations grow bigger and bigger. The more negative we are the more negative we become. So what are the solutions to Negative Expectations? We have to realize and believe that by ourselves we can do nothing. Even Jesus said “the Son can do nothing by himself; he can do only what he sees his Father doing, because whatever the Father does the Son also does.” (John 5:19,20,30). Remember, “For we live by faith, not by sight.” We must activate our Positive Expectations; faith. (II Corin. 5:7) Develop relationships with people who are positive and demonstrate a faith-filled walk. “We do not want you to become lazy, but to imitate those who through faith and patience inherit what has been promised.” (Hebrews 6:12) Ask yourself questions to uncover Negative Expectations. For example: “Lord, what negative confessions come out of my mouth? What things do I believe that do not line up with scripture? What expectations rob me of love, joy and peace?” We need God to show us where we are creating and nurturing Negative Expectations so we can pray and come out of agreement with them. We need to have Holy Spirit Positive Expectations driven by faith. Faith is the catalyst that drives out Negative Expectations. Today is a great day to begin moving away from Negative Expectations and embrace faith-filled Positive Expectations. Speak words of life over yourself and others. Remember, God says, “I have set before you life and death, blessings and cursing; therefore choose life, that both you and your descendants may live.” Deuteronomy 30:19

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On Saturday, June 8th, 2019 we had our "Inaugural Commencement Ceremony". A total of 7 Graduates from New Jersey and Florida came together in beautiful Punta Gorda Florida for the celebration. Thursday, June 6, 2019, Open House We began our graduation weekend on Thursday, June 6th with our New Jersey Students arriving that afternoon and an Open House for potential students that evening. This event was well attended by our students, professors, and guests. As a result, we will have new students starting Creation Therapy in September and possibly satellite locations in Florida, New Jersey, and Massachusetts. Friday, June 7th, 2019 Continuing Education Workshops On Friday, June 7th from 11:00 am to 4:00 pm our Continuing Education Workshops convened at the Chamber of Commerce Boardroom in downtown Punta Gorda. The purpose of these workshops was to bring the students to the next level of their journey and training as Christian counselors. When the students arrived their reactions were priceless when they saw Drs. Richard and Phyllis Arno sitting in the room. Shock, excitement, and unbelief are the only words that could describe this moment. The Florida students and the New Jersey students were meeting each other, in person for the first time. It was wonderful to see their excitement to meet each other and the hugs and laughter they shared. Each student received a custom made tote bag with the school logo on it containing their cap, gown, graduation program booklet, and other school memorabilia. Our workshop leaders were, Drs. Richard and Phyllis Arno of Sarasota, Florida, Ms. Deborah Blackwell from Toms River, New Jersey and Dr. Jarett White of Howell, New Jersey.  Each workshop leader brought excellence and insight to our students from the perspective of their responsibility to stay healthy and whole in their Mind, Body, Soul, and Spirit. They challenged each of them to look deeper into their relationship with God and allow the Holy Spirit to guide them in all that they do naturally and spiritually, while gaining a greater insight about temperament for themselves and their potential counselees. Dr. Richard Arno shared life-changing stories and experiences that impacted the students in ways that words cannot fully describe.  Dr. Phyllis Arno shared insights into the temperament that continually gave students aha moments and an awareness that will forever change the way they look at themselves and those they serve in the field of Christian Counseling. This combination was power-packed. The humility of this amazing couple was humbling for all of us.  They showed such love and support to our students and our staff we will never be the same. We thank you and we appreciate all you do and all you’ve done. Dr. Jarett White - presented the last session of the day which examined Secondary Traumatic Stress Syndrome which can be characterized by vicarious traumatization, compassion fatigue, or prolonged exposure to traumatized clients who are in crisis. He pointed out that when working with traumatized individuals the counselor can be affected emotionally, physically, or spiritually. Therefore, it’s important that we receive the help we need as counselors, so that we are not affected by secondary traumatic stress. This includes ensuring that we have a mentor, relaxation exercises, work-life balance checks, and other self-care activities. This was a very interactive session that used journaling, short video clips, relaxation exercise, and visualization. The students really enjoyed it. That same evening we hosted a Meet & Greet for the students and their family and friends at the Four Points Sheraton downtown Punta Gorda on the Peace River.  It was a lovely evening with food, fellowship, and fun. Saturday, June 8th 2019 Inaugural Commencement Ceremony The Graduates started their special day with breakfast at the Visual Arts Center on Saturday, June 8th and Commencement began at 10am to a packed house. The Processional began with the Graduates, Staff and our Keynote speakers walking in to the Lauren Daigle’s song “Salt and Light”. Dr. Jarett White opened in prayer and the presence of the Lord filled the room. The emotions of the graduates were heighted when our guest soloist Shaunte Manuel, sang a soul-stirring rendition of “My Souls has been Anchored” by Milton Brunson followed up by “Halleluiah” led by Ebony Mattox our Mistress of Ceremony encouraging the audience to flow in the Spirit of worship that was in the room. Our Keynote speakers Drs. Richard and Phyllis Arno brought laughter, enlightenment, hope, and healing to all those present.  The graduates were given practical advice using the Arnos' real-life experience to help them on their journey of faith. They admonished them to live a life of prayer with a commitment to the Word of God, which would benefit both their personal lives as well as their ministry in Christian Counseling. The Graduates then received their numerous certifications, licenses, certificates, flowers, an NCCA, and God’s Word First school pin to commemorate this event. Dr. Zarita F. Mattox-Wright concluded the ceremony with prayer and a charge to the graduates to never stop learning, leaning on the Holy Spirit for support, always letting ethics and integrity be exemplified as they do what they have been called to do as Christian Counselors. The celebration continued with a delicious luncheon at The Wyvern Hotel to the music of the “Legacy Band”.  The graduates honored their professors Dr. Jarett White and Dr. Zarita F. Mattox-Wright with love gifts and an impromptu song “I need you to Survive” by Hezekiah Walker,  that had the whole restaurant on their feet. What an exciting weekend!  The graduates continued to fellowship that evening and the next morning, going to breakfast together before their flight back to New Jersey. The God’s Word First School of Christian Counseling Staff brought excellence to every aspect and detail of this Inaugural Commencement Ceremony and graduation weekend and we appreciate all they do. We look forward to this upcoming year trusting the Holy Spirit to lead, guide and provide all we need to fulfill God’s will and purpose for the students he entrusts to us. Striving for Excellence in all we do.

How did the apostle John know that, two thousand years after he lived, your life would need a fresh touch from God? How did John know that, at the beginning of a new millennium, our lives would be so busy, our focus so divided, our bodies so tired, our minds so bombarded, our families so attacked, our relationships so strained, our churches so programmed . . . that we would be desperate for the simplicity and the purity, the freedom and the fulfillment of a life lived in Jesus’ name? John probably didn’t know. But God did. That’s why He gives us Jesus! And that’s why, as Anne Graham Lotz reveals, John’s eyewitness account of Jesus’ life is unmistakably relevant to your life today. The same Jesus who turned water into wine is the One who provides for your needs at this very moment. Enter into His life and find your soul refreshed with Living Water. This new edition of Just Give Me Jesus contains an in-depth devotional guide to help you explore the words of John in a personal and practical way, either on your own or in a group. You’ll find inspiration and revelation as you study the Scripture more closely and record your reflections in space provided at the back of the book. Find out more

He that dwelleth in the secret place of the most High shall abide under the shadow of the Almighty. I will say of the Lord, He is my refuge and my fortress: my God; in him will I trust. Surely he shall deliver thee from the snare of the fowler, and from the noisome pestilence. He shall cover thee with his feathers, and under his wings shalt thou trust: his truth shall be thy shield and buckler. Thou shalt not be afraid for the terror by night; nor for the arrow that flieth by day; Nor for the pestilence that walketh in darkness; nor for the destruction that wasteth at noonday. A thousand shall fall at thy side, and ten thousand at thy right hand; but it shall not come nigh thee. Only with thine eyes shalt thou behold and see the reward of the wicked. Because thou has made the Lord, which is my refuge, even the most High, thy habitation; There shall no evil befall thee, neither shall any plague come nigh thy dwelling. For he shall give his angels charge over thee, to keep thee in all thy ways. They shall bear thee up in their hands, lest thou dash thy foot against a stone. Thou shalt tred upon the lion and adder: the young lion and the dragon shalt thou trample under feet. Thou shalt tred upon the lion and adder: the young lion and the dragon shalt thou trample under feet. He shall call upon me, and I will answer him: I will be with him in trouble; I will deliver him, and honour him. With long life will I satisfy him, and shew him my salvation. FEAR FEAR IS A BIG BULLY AND PREYS ON ALL OF THE TEMPERAMENTS! Fear can keep us locked up in a prison of darkness. But YOU have the key to get out of this prison of darkness. The key is Jesus! We need to trust that Jesus will g et rid of the bully. How? Jesus is the Light of the World, and the darkness has to run from Him. And Jesus always keeps His Word. For example, take a flashlight and shine the light in a dark place and see what happens—the darkness disappears! The same thing will happen with our fears because Jesus is our Light—our fears will disappear! The Holy Scriptures tell us” “Fear not.” It is in our Bible over 70 times and tells us that God is always here for us; however, sometimes, when we are going through the valleys, we tend to let fear creep in and take over. Encouraging Scriptures regarding fear: Isaiah 41:10: “Fear thou not; for I am with thee: be not dismayed; for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness.” Joshua 1:5: “I will be with thee: I will not fail thee, nor forsake thee.” Psalm 23:4, 5: “Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me.” Psalm 27:1: “The Lord is my light and my salvation; whom shall I fear?” Psalm 56:11: “In God have I put my trust: I will not be afraid what man can do unto me.” Hebrews 13:6: “So that we may boldly say, The Lord is my helper, and I will not fear what man shall do unto me.” John 14:27: “Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.” II Timothy 1:7: “For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.” I John 4:18: “There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love.” LET’S TAKE A LOOK AT SOME OF THE FEARS IN THE INCLUSION AREA OF THE CHOLERIC AND SHINE THE LIGHT OF JESUS ON THEM. In review, Inclusion is the need to establish and maintain satisfactory relationships with people in the area of surface relationships. (This includes association and socialization.) It also encompasses a person’s intellectual energies. 1. FEAR OF BEING EXPOSED Cholerics in Inclusion tend to be afraid that people will find out who they really are. This is because they wear many “masks” or “hats.” They can become whomever it takes to accomplish their goals. Sometimes they do not even know “who” they are! They can be sweet and charming, cold, calculating and aloof, or just neutral—whatever it takes. Some Cholerics in Inclusion may even call themselves “The Great Pretender.” There was a song popular back in the 50’s called The Great Pretender, “pretending to be what I’m not, you see…..” Their fear of being exposed and of others finding out who they really are is a driving force that can lead them to burnout. They need to learn to shine the light of Jesus on their fears, and let Him expose the masks that they are wearing, as well as their negative thoughts about themselves. Philippians 4:8 tells us: "Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things." 2. FEAR OF SAYING NO WHEN ASKED TO ORGANIZE SOCIAL EVENTS Cholerics in Inclusion tend to be afraid to say no because they want and need the recognition and approval from those around them. The need for recognition and approval is a driving force and can lead to burnout. They need to learn to shine the light of Jesus on their fears of not receiving enough recognition and approval from those around them. God will give them all the recognition and approval they will ever need. Matthew 25:21 tells us: “His lord said unto him, Well done, thou good and faithful servant…” 3. FEAR OF NOT BEING ABLE TO LIVE UP TO THEIR OWN STANDARDS OF PERFECTION Cholerics in Inclusion are very hard on themselves, setting standards that even they can’t meet; then, because of their need for perfection, they will fear that they can’t measure up to their own standards and will tend to strive or push themselves to do better. The fear of not being able to live up to their own standards of perfection can lead to burnout. They need to learn to shine the light of Jesus on their fears of meeting their need for perfection. God only requires reasonable service. They need to learn that as they submit to God, He will do the perfecting. Hebrews 13:20-21: “Now the God of peace, that brought again from the dead our Lord Jesus, that great shepherd of the sheep, through the blood of the everlasting covenant, make you perfect in every good work to do his will, working in you that which is well-pleasing in his sight, through Jesus Christ; to whom be glory for ever and ever. Amen.” See also II Samuel 22:33: “God is my strength and power: and he maketh my way perfect.” 4. FEAR OF OTHERS NOT LIVING UP TO THEIR STANDARDS OF PERFECTION Cholerics in Inclusion tend to fear delegating to others because they are afraid that they will not live up to their standards of perfection. If the others do not meet their standards of perfection, then the Choleric in Inclusion will tend to take over and cause themselves undue stress, all because they need to receive recognition and approval rather than criticism. The fear of delegating responsibilities to others that may not live up to their standards of perfection can lead to burnout. They need to learn to shine the light of Jesus on their fears of delegating to others and learn to allow others to be imperfect. God will do the perfecting in others as well as in themselves. Proverbs 16:3: “Commit thy works unto the Lord, and thy thoughts shall be established.” See also Hebrews 7:19: “For the law made nothing perfect, but the bringing in of a better hope did; by the which we draw nigh unto God.” CONCLUSION Cholerics in Inclusion need to learn that: God knows them and will reveal to them how to take off their “masks” and “hats” and truly serve Him. God will give them all the recognition and approval they will ever need. God only requires reasonable service. God will do the perfecting of others as well as themselves. God wants us to do our best, He knows that we are not perfect, but that we are all works in progress. PLEASE NOTE: These are temperament tendencies, and, as always, while you are counseling the Choleric in Inclusion you must take into consideration their walk with the Lord, learned behavior, personality and birth order. In the next issue, we will look at FEARS in the Inclusion area of the Melancholy.